This is from one of my Bridges to Heaven grief workshop attendees in New York who writes for the New York Times. She recently lost her partner, Laura, to cancer. She writes about her healing experience in my class:
Yesterday I went to the ‘Healing Our Grief’ workshop at the Open Center. It was a beautiful sharing experience hosted by Sue Frederick author of Bridges to Heaven. Sue’s husband died age 37 from cancer and her best friend died the same year. These two tragedies transformed her life, reawakened her intuition and her spiritual side and prompted her to quit her job in journalism.
Sue came to understand, she says, that, ‘We take the soul journey of loss with our loved ones for a divine purpose’. It sets us on a path to reinvention and reconnection with spirit. Over the day, the mood in the room turned from sorrow to uplift.
Timidly at first, everyone began to share stories of their departed loved ones reappearing in their lives. Incredibly I was sitting in a Lucie-Laura sandwich; my neighbors were Lucille, Laura and Lore-Donna. Lore-Donna said roses magically grew around her window in time for her birthday after her husband died. Liz, who had just lost both parents, experienced her mother as a beautiful moth that sat by her side and rested in her palm.
These delicate experiences are easy to pick apart or dismiss as fanciful imaginings with our cerebral left brains. But they are the tissue that connects us to our loved ones and the spiritual world.
Once we stop doubting and see them for what they are, they are an amazing joy.
Several people, including Sue, commented on how comfortable I am with all this. Of course, I’ve had the best spirit guide in Laura. She was holding my hand and tickling me during the day.
But Sue also thought my intuition might have awakened earlier due to having battled Multiple Sclerosis for most of my life. I’ve healed myself using alternative methods and a lifetime’s symptoms have vanished (that’s a story for another time) but shortly after I was officially diagnosed in 2004, I had a vision that a large piece of my head was missing, almost half my skull was gone.
And then just as I was feeling sad, into this hole poured the most beautiful golden light. I felt that my illness had cracked me open and let the light in. That out of this suffering, beautiful things would come. And they did.
By Lucie Young
She has 80,000 blog followers and writes for the New York Times – http://laurasrecovery.com
When we’re at the top, the peak of a cycle, and all is well, we often forget about our Divine Lens view. We’re content to see life as a physical world because we’re happy and enjoying ourselves.
When we hit a valley, a great loss, illness or heartbreak, we struggle and suffer– until we finally reach for our Divine Lens and remember the gift of the lesson; remember our soul’s wisdom.
This is the purpose of the “valley” – to remind us of what’s important and who we really are.
Once we love the valley, cherish our Divine Lens view and embrace the lesson, we find ourselves happy again and moving forward with another peak in view ahead of us.
This is the sweet spot – still wearing our Divine Lens and yet excited to be moving forward with wisdom and grace.
If you’re in the valley today from job loss or heartbreak, look within, meditate, ask for divine guidance and listen to your soul’s wisdom. Sit still. Take a breath. You can only hear it when you’re quiet, unplugged and receptive.
Become best friends with your inner wisdom and shut out the chatter around you from friends, family and the world in general.
Once you see things from your higher self, your soul’s wisdom, not your ego mind, you’ll feel peaceful, grateful and open-hearted. This is when things will begin shifting for you.
You’ll find yourself moving forward in a new and more enlightened direction, an exciting new summit just ahead. Keep wearing your Divine Lens and cherish the wisdom you’ve gained in the valley.
From my newest book: Your Divine Lens (Release coming soon!)
You need partners and friends whose conversations leave you feeling uplifted and inspired to do something bigger and make a difference.
Your vision of a better world is your gift. Don’t dismiss it or waste time criticizing the way things are now. Tap into your enormous pool of inspiration and find a way to use your vision as the foundation for your work. That mission is the one you came to share.
Your salvation lies in seeing the big picture, following your inspiration, opening your heart and not getting lost in details, drudgery, or routine.
Your highest work requires stepping out of the confines of convention – into alternative worlds of knowledge, spirituality, intuition, and healing. It’s time to embrace your spirituality and use it as your gift to uplift and inspire others.
By spirituality, I don’t mean just reading a book or two, I mean daily connection to the divine through meditation and intense spiritual practice. It’s time to embrace your highest self profoundly enough to build your great work around it.
Let this pain fuel you to move forward and succeed at something that inspires and changes our world. It’s time to quit trying to fit in and be someone you’re not. You’ve hidden your true gifts in order to be loved. But the world will embrace you for who you truly are when you share your story through your great work.
To recover you need to do your work, the work you signed up for that will enlighten the world. Nothing will ease your pain as much as inspiration and accomplishment. Daily spiritual practice, such as meditation, will help you heal, overcome your doubt, and move forward boldly.
-From Bridges to Heaven: True Stories of Loved Ones on the Other Side
Look at this lost and pained soul standing before you who has just hurt you, acted from their ego self, and know that you no longer want to look like them, act like them. They’re showing you a part of yourself that you’re ready to surrender.
All that’s required of you in this moment of anger is to see the other person as a wounded soul doing the best they can from their own level of awareness. Love them for their pain and struggles because you’re just like them. By loving them, you’re healing yourself.
Rise above the unconscious ego behavior they’re showing you – because it’s ugly, selfish and desperate, and that’s not who you are. That’s not who you aspire to be.
One simple breath and a request for guidance, pulls you away from habitual reaction and raises you a notch towards your great soul potential. Thank the messenger for the lesson; thank the soul standing before you who triggered your reaction. Your anger is revealed so that it can be healed.
The next time someone says or does something that triggers your anger, you’ll already be removed from the ego experience, more in touch with your soul’s wisdom, watching it all unfold from your divine lens. You’ll pause, take a breath, adjust your lens, and choose your words gracefully. Compassion will pour through you if you allow it.
This is the gift of your anger. This is the gift of your opponent arriving with their sword drawn, eager to slice a piece of you. In that moment of sacred recognition, everything changes, and you realize that nothing and no one can ever hurt you or tarnish your lovely soul – when you view it through your divine lens.
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Tap into our inner guidance and align with our unique soul mission in order to move through our challenges in life and find our great work.