May 2, 2012 / by suefrederick / Make A Comment / Filed under Blog Posts, Career Coaching
Have you ever worried that someone else might get a job you want because they’re younger? When you start worrying about the younger competition, it’s really time to focus on who you are and who you want to be. Are you happy with your career? Is your life on track?
If you’re worried about aging, give this thought a try: “When I’m using my innate talents with all of my passion to make a difference in the world through my work, I am successful and happy.” Is this statement true in your life? If not, make a course correction, career reinvention or whatever it takes to align yourself with work based on your unique gifts -the work you came here to do.
Once your life is aligned with work you love that uses your innate talents and is on-path for you, you become unstoppable. You attract every opportunity, circumstance and relationship you want. The only thing that can sabotage you is your fear.
To master agelessness, try this exercise: Stand in front of a mirror and think a negative, fearful or worried thought. Look at your face. Now think a thought of gratitude or love. Breathe in the gratitude and soak yourself in it. Look at your face again. Do you see the difference?
Consider that aging is simply accumulated negativity that creates an expression we identify as “old.” When we spend most of our time in a state of worry or stress, our negative energy ages us. We can become youthful again the moment we shift our focus. Here’s a simple exercise to help:
Pretend you have $5 million in your bank account, perfect love and perfect health. Spend a few minutes imagining this life of ease, fun, travel and meaningful work. As you picture this life, feel your energy rising on your energy continuum until you’re feeling pretty darned good. Congratulations! You’ve just shifted your energy to the high-end of your energy continuum – without changing your external circumstances. That in itself is pretty cool, and it shows how powerful you are. It demonstrates that feeling good is not dependent on your circumstances.
Here are some ways to win the anti-aging contest:
1. Focus on your innate talents. Your value in this world comes from using those innate natural talents with all of your passion to make the world a better place. Using those talents every day in your work creates lasting beauty that the world recognizes. The work you attract by using your talents is your true work.
Today, make a list of your top five natural talents, such as inspiring others or creating peace from conflict. Ask yourself if you’re using these talents in your everyday life and career. If not, change direction until your life and work become platforms for bringing those gifts to the world. That’s what you’re here to do. That’s your true purpose–and your true beauty.
2. Use energy shifters. Whenever you’re feeling “old,” say to yourself: “When I raise my energy (with gratitude, sweetness or humor), I connect to the divine fabric that we’re all part of, and I’m as brilliant and beautiful as anyone in the world.”
Practice that energy shift (from pitiful to powerful) wherever you go, whether it’s to a meeting or a dinner party. Whenever you’re going out socially, raise your energy with gratitude and humor before you leave the house. If you’re having a bad day, read books, watch movies and listen to music that lifts your energy and inspires you with new ideas. (And turn off the news, please.)
3. See yourself as divine. That’s hard to do sometimes, so here’s a trick that helps. Picture yourself looking and acting your best; see it as clearly as if you were watching a movie and seeing yourself in the leading role. Imagine yourself interacting with others in an attractive, graceful and charismatic way. Draw a picture of what this new, divine you looks like and hang it on your bathroom mirror. Whenever you’re being self-critical, shift your gaze to the picture of your ideal self and say, “Thank you, Universe, for connecting me to my innate beauty and grace.”
4. Surround yourself with great friends who live by these principles. Model yourself after their way of thinking and facing challenges. When we surround ourselves with small-minded thinkers, we prevent our own wisdom from showing up. We stifle our greatness to fit in. We make ourselves smaller and more trivial in order to be seen as “normal.”
In the world of small-minded thinkers, life is only a beauty contest and a trivia quiz. You’ll feel empty and off-path when you engage socially with folks like that. Get comfortable being around high-energy people, since your new job and new co-workers are going to be very high-energy. These high-energy people live in their truth, using their talents, purpose and passion. They don’t waste their time or yours. Stand amongst them.
5. Align your work with your true mission. Each of us has a path as revealed in our date of birth. By learning about your path, which reflects your true intention for this lifetime, you’ll know which careers are right for you. For more info about your path read I See Your Dream Job; A Career Intuitive Shows You How to Discover What You Were Put On Earth To Do
March 28, 2012 / by suefrederick / Make A Comment / Filed under Blog Posts, Career Coaching
You know what you came here to do. It’s the big dream that you haven’t shared with anyone yet – but you’ve dreamt it over and over again for many years.
You know you’re here to help people and to make money. You have all the skills and experience you need to manifest this work successfully. First you have to get past the bogeyman (or what I call the “pitiful self”).
There is a self-doubt deep inside of you that makes you pull back just before you take the brave step into the light of your new direction, the work you came here to do.
It’s time to override that voice of the pitiful self and take your leap of faith into unknown territory. This is your moment, and it’s what you came here to do.
You’re here to be an explorer, a settler of unknown territory, a prospector into the divine. It’s why you came to planet earth, not to hide out in your self-doubt confinement.
There’s new territory waiting to be discovered by only you with the unique gifts you brought with you. This is sacred ground waiting to be blessed by your unsteady feet, and your children are watching to see how far you will go down the unknown path. They will, of course, go farther than you in their time. But you can make important progress for them, progress that gives them a better chance at success.
Who will your children be after they watch you cringe at the mention of change? Where will your children go after they listen to your misery about a world where no one gets to be successful doing what they love? Who will they be after watching you suffer every day because of a career that doesn’t fit your true gifts?
That voice of self doubt, the pitiful self, is an essential part of being human. It’s inside all of us. It pulls us back to the limited mind, to the limited consciousness that lives within the body. This heavy burden of limited flesh and a scattered mind is what we signed up for when we came here to evolve.
Yet the pain and self-doubt is designed to become our fuel for doing our great work – for offering to the world what we wish had been offered to us. Will you let your pain and doubt stop you now from living up to the mission you came here to accomplish? Or will you use it as your fuel for moving forward? It’s your choice. Everything depends on your decision.
You intended to use your energy (fueled by pain and doubt) to manifest greatness through your work, to push consciousness to a new level, to help make life on planet earth magnificent for everyone. Your children still carry that dream in their DNA. Will you diminish their dreams with your own fear?
Wake up! Take a deep breath. Fill your body with the light of new ideas! Open your eyes and ask gratefully, “Who did I come here to be?” You are not here to be afraid! Take a bold step in your true direction, the one you’ve always been afraid to take, the one that’s bigger than the rest – the unspeakably great one. That’s your true mission and your next step. Everyone is waiting.
Here are six steps to get you going:
- Meditate, pray, or at least unplug for 20 minutes every morning to get your own powerful intuitive guidance – which is very different from your fear voice.
- Understand your path and mission by studying the numbers in your date of birth to learn what they mean about your career.
- Make a list of three baby steps you could take this week to investigate your next career step – the one that’s in alignment with both your path and dreams.
- Use humor, gratitude, dreaming, and meditation or prayer to raise your energy and override the pitiful self.
- Dream a little dream every night and write it down in the morning. Before you lay down to sleep, ask for intuitive guidance through your dreams. When you awake, write down everything you can remember.
This week take three baby steps into unknown territory and don’t look back.
March 21, 2012 / by suefrederick / Make A Comment / Filed under Blog Posts, Career Coaching
I’m sitting in a white, dome-shaped room at a large table. The sound of water falling in the background is soothing. But I’m feeling anxious anyway and am unable to sit still.
The man in front of me carefully studies charts spread out across the table, amused by my impatience. Slowly he looks up and smiles. “You can do this,” he says softly. “It’s a big path, a strong mission. You’re ready.”
“What if I get lost? I’m not sure I’m ready.”
“You will get lost. But you’ll have help from soul mates whom you’ll recognize upon meeting.” He looks back up at me smiling. “You know who they are, don’t you?”
“Yes, my posse. Same as always.” I smile, remembering our great love for one another and our last incarnation together.
“This time, let me caution you, many of those agreements will be designed to spur your growth until you embrace your path and get down to work. Until then, the pain of those relationships will keep you moving. You’ll long for a resting place. But it won’t appear until you create it with your sacred work.”
“What is my true work?” I ask, starting to feel queasy about this journey.
“Using your spiritual wisdom to help others–sharing the gifts you bring in with you to help raise consciousness.”
“You think I can do that down there? And get paid for doing it? You DO remember they’re still a primitive and economically based world…”
“You’re up for the job, my dear,” he says, staring directly at me with disarming blue eyes.
“Will I be homesick?” I ask.
“And sometimes afraid,” he answers. “But these feelings will force you to search for truth and see beyond the illusions. You’ll experience pain so you can help others in pain.”
“Will one of my soul mates stand beside me to help do the work?”
“Later on, after you’ve found your strength and courage.” He pauses and looks directly at me. “Please remember that you’ll never be like others. Many get lost there thinking they should act the same as the others. Each one has his own mission, the sacred work brought to Earth to help shift consciousness. Just remember who you are and focus on your mission.”
“Why is there so much confusion in that realm?”
“The dense energy causes us to forget. But that’s changing…”
“Will I ever have what’s considered a normal family life while I’m there?”
He looks back down at the charts and papers spread out before him. He points to a section where several lines intersect. “Oh yes, very sweet…but later on.”
“How will I remember what I’m supposed to do?”
“Your heart will be broken every time you hide behind a partner. That heartbreak will be your fuel; it will push you forward.”
“What about money and comfort?”
“Not really until later. Too much of that in the beginning can slow you down.”
“Right…no money and comfort until I’m doing the work.”
“Right,” he says, smiling.
“What clues will I get to help me find my way?”
“Your powerful intuition. You’ll see what’s coming before it arrives. You’ll feel everything around you–good and bad. You’ll dream of your partners before they show up. You’ll recognize every soul mate the moment you meet. You’ll dream about your great work constantly and be restless until you accomplish your mission.”
“If I follow my intuition I’ll succeed?”
“That’s the plan. You’ll have to embrace those powerful emotions–loss, anger, fear, joy, and love. Those feelings will help you find your way. Don’t worry. We’ll be in touch,” he says, standing up and moving away from me.
“You’ll help when I need you?” I ask, getting up to follow him.
“Through your feelings, dreams, and intuition. I’ll see you again so quickly. The visit seems long when you’re in it. But it’s only the blink of an eye in your soul’s journey.” He turns and walks out of the room without looking back.
I have more questions and try to follow, but I’m quickly escorted into a large chamber with a platform in the center and told to lie down.
Soothing words and music fill the small space and help me relax. I begin to feel deliciously sleepy. Golden light illuminates from every direction. “It’s wonderful,” I whisper, lifting my hand up into the light to see the iridescence.
I awaken in a physical body struggling to breathe.
March 14, 2012 / by suefrederick / Make A Comment / Filed under Blog Posts, Career Coaching
You woke up this morning with a new idea. You marinated in it before getting out of bed. You asked yourself, is this the time to follow that dream?
There has never been a greater time to follow that dream than now. When the conventional rules of career come crashing in around us, we emerge from the rubble holding onto our true selves – the divine potential we came to fulfill through our work. Nothing else remains.
It’s time to embrace this great potential inside of you and launch your big idea. Are you still hoping for a security-blanket-job that will take care of your every need? That system is crumbing now. Embrace your big idea and move forward.
Open your eyes. Do you see the gifted healer standing over there pretending to be a grocery clerk? Do you see the inspired inventor pretending to be a marketing director? Do you see the innovative engineer acting like a salesman? Are they abundantly wealthy, successful and happy? Probably not.
The question is, are you one of the few willing to believe your own inner voice, the intuition inside of you that has been whispering your mission for years?
I hear you saying it’s impossible. Everything is impossible. And yet you’re here anyway in this impossible world. The impossible has already happened.
It’s time to remember that this life IS a dream – and you created it. You meant to be the hero in your story.Focus on these baby steps to help you remember who you are and bring your big idea to the world:
Strengthen your spirituality, however you define it. Bring it into your life everyday through prayer or meditation. This means learning a tried and true meditation technique and practicing it EVERY DAY. This will open your pathway to inner guidance faster than any other practice. I recommend repeating the ancient and powerful Sanskrit wordsOm Namah Shivaya which mean I bow to the divine self.
Understand that your pain is on purpose; it’s your greatest fuel to do your true work. Ask yourself, if I signed up for my painful experiences in order to bring my wisdom to the world through my work, how can my pain serve others? Whom can I help with the wisdom I’ve learned from my own challenges?
Listen to your intuitive guidance rather than your mind – and learn to tell the difference. Here’s how: picture yourself doing a new job – one that you’re dreaming of doing. See yourself talking to people, sitting at your desk, or working from home. Pay attention to how that vision feels physically in your body. Does it make you smile and feel light? Do you giggle seeing it? Or does it make you feel heavy and tired? If it makes you feel heavy and tired, that’s your intuition saying “no, this is not the right career for you.” Instead, it’s probably a career idea that your mind created – to pay the bills and be practical.
Realize that abundance will only come to you from doing your true work – which is the reverse logic from what you hear around you everyday. This law of divine order is always in action. Look around you and observe it in the lives of people you know. When people choose a job for the money, that money slips through their fingers like water. It’s not rightfully theirs. It didn’t come from doing the work they signed up for, so it never sticks. When they do their true work, the universe supports their efforts in every way bringing opportunities and people into their path who will help their work succeed against all odds.
Take three steps towards the big idea that you woke up with this morning. First, test it with your intuition (see step 3). If it still feels right, take three steps to investigate this idea such as calling someone who does this work and asking them how they got started. Or research this career on the internet. Who else is doing it? How is your work different from theirs? Write down your ideas. Take three more steps each week.
Identify the voice of your pitiful self getting in your way. This is your fear and doubt. That pitiful self exists in everyone. (Give it a name like Sad Sadie or Doubting Debbie so you can tell it’s a different energy from your higher self). We choose to come into this dense realm to push past those negative emotions and evolve our souls – not to get stopped in our tracks by Doubting Debbie. Look around you. The people you admire have pushed past their fear and doubt or they wouldn’t be where you want to be. You’ve wasted time being stopped by your pitiful self. Picture how your life would look it this weren’t so. Take a step past the fear today. Get out of your own way, and start moving in the direction you already signed up for.
Decipher the numbers in your birth date according to the philosophy of Pythagoras who created the number system we use today. He said that numbers have energy and meaning beyond quantity, and that your date of birth reveals your destined work path. (Read my book – I See Your Dream Job – to learn about your path.) Evaluate whether your big idea is in alignment with your birth path mission or not. If it is, put all of your energy in that direction.
March 7, 2012 / by suefrederick / Make A Comment / Filed under Blog Posts, Career Coaching
How often have you ignored a hunch? Dismissed an intuitive feeling or a pre-cognitive dream? Each time you ignore your inner knowing, you weaken its voice within you.
Your intuition is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it gets. The less you use it, the weaker it gets.
When I first started working as a career coach in the 1970s, I got intuitive hunches and visions about my clients. I saw them involved in careers other than the ones they were currently pursuing. I had dreams about them and knew their life stories before I worked with them.
But because I wasn’t comfortable owning my gift, I would ignore my intuitive guidance and function as a conventional career coach, asking my clients questions and making them fill out endless sheets of information.
Once I began honoring my intuitive insights and immediately sharing them with clients, my intuition became more and more powerful. I learned to prepare for my clients’ sessions by meditating on their paths to see their journeys, feel their gifts and talents, and download guidance designed especially for them.
Today, this intuitive insight helps my clients and students tremendously. Whenever a certain feeling or image pops into my field, I share it. Over the years, I’ve found that the most seemingly illogical tidbit of information that I receive for clients is often the most helpful. I’ve learned to trust what I get.
Today, I follow those hunches in every session and while making every decision in my own life–from where to have dinner to when to start a new book or what outfit to wear.
Several years ago, I spent a week in England visiting my daughter while she was studying at Oxford. I was by myself and had free time on my hands, so I bought a rail pass. From my base in Oxford, I decided to visit as many places in England as possible–guided by intuition.
Each morning, I intuitively decided where I would visit by meditating and picturing various cities and choosing the one that felt right. Once I arrived in a city, I continued to trust my gut. Each time I followed a certain street, took a particular turn, or stopped into a certain restaurant that felt right, my intuition rewarded me with a wonderful experience.
From fabulous meals to meant-to-be conversations, to once-in-a-lifetime opportunities and amazing new friends, my entire trip was an extraordinary experience. I even followed my intuition when waiting for buses (Did I miss that bus or not? Pause… Listen to the inner voice. Notice that feeling in my gut. OK, keep waiting for the bus.)
My intuition was ALWAYS right. By following my intuitive travel sense, I created a magical and divinely guided trip.
My favorite part was the day I spent in Liverpool. A lifelong Beatles fan, I arrived in Liverpool without reservations for the famed “History of the Beatles” guided bus tour.
During that extraordinary day of following my intuition, I received a free ticket to the sold-out Beatles tour, got a free sack lunch for the trip, and struck up a friendship with Yoko Ono’s hand-appointed guardian for John Lennon’s childhood home. It was one of the most amazing days of my life.
This unplanned, intuitively guided England adventure was the most enjoyable vacation I’ve ever taken. On the flight home, I made a decision that I would never again dismiss my gut feeling–even over the smallest details. I would completely trust my divine guidance in every area of life. My guides have since rewarded me a hundredfold with stronger and stronger guidance.
