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You either believe in divine order or you don’t. It’s an all or nothing thing. Either you’re aware that all events occur for your soul’s growth, your highest good, and the highest good of all – or life feels chaotic, painful and meaningless.
Each day provides opportunities to shift back and forth between those two views until you fully align with the view that empowers you most and moves your life in a positive direction. Only then can you fulfill your soul’s mission and live up to your greatest potential.
You may find yourself saying, “Things happen for a reason” when you get a new job, your business is thriving, you fall in love, have a baby, or gain recognition. You slip on the lens of divine order at those moments and offer gratitude to a loving God or a divine universe that operates for your highest good.
When things aren’t going so well; when you lose that great job, when you’re facing bankruptcy, your spouse divorces you, or your child dies in a tragic accident – you may feel angry at a God who could cause such cruel suffering, or you may rage at an unjust universe where tragic events unfold for no reason.
This is your awakening moment – when your soul is being pushed to the next level of your growth – which is exactly what you agreed to experience before this lifetime began. It’s also when you find out if you’re living from your soul’s perspective, your divine view, or from your ego self. Read more
Whenever we’re experiencing deep loss or illness, we stop dreaming. We only focus on the pain and the past. Have you ever seen a dog lick its wound obsessively and thus prevent healing? That’s what we do with our pain.
It’s okay to do this for a little while. But recognize that it’s not helping you. In order to make things in your life get better – you have to start dreaming of what you want next.
When a loved one has died, we sometimes feel like we’re betraying them if we move on and stop licking the wound. This is clearly not the case. Your loved one is watching you from the other realm and desperately wants you to let go and be happy again. Releasing your attachment is the greatest gift you can give someone who has passed on. Bless them on their way to the higher realms.
If you could have a conversation with your deceased loved one, he or she would tell you that your grief hurts them too. Your painful attachment prevents them from moving on to the great adventure awaiting them in the higher realms.
When my husband died, Chief Fools Crow (who was in North Dakota and miles from civilization) hiked to a phone booth in order to call our mutual contact in Denver – who then called me in Boulder and said, “Paul has passed on now, and the spirit guides are guiding him to higher realms. But if you wallow in your grief, you’ll prevent him from moving on to where he needs to go to find peace.”
This phone call greeted me the moment I returned home from the hospital after Paul had died. His words truly helped me; I didn’t want to hurt Paul by holding onto my grief.
If the person you’re grieving over is still alive, but they’ve chosen not to be in a relationship with you – you have only one option.
Throughout the day, say this to yourself:
“Okay, I wasn’t being my brilliant self. My energy was terrible, so she (or he) left me. Now I am doing everything in my power to raise my energy. I will soon attract him (or someone greater) into my life.”
Remember, life is simply an energy contest. The person with the best energy always attracts the life and love they want.
Here’s the secret: The more pain you feel, the more energy you have to launch your new life and a more meaningful career. See the pain as fuel – not as something that stops you from moving forward.
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” Carl Jung
When you’re unhappy, it’s time to face your greatest ally – your pain. The pain you’re feeling deep inside of you is like a beacon calling for your attention. It’s telling you what you need to know so your life can improve.
Remember, everything is energy. We are made of vibrating pure energy and as we vibrate, we attract. Our emotions, thoughts and beliefs create the vibrational messages that we send out. These vibrational messages either help or sabotage our efforts to have a wonderful life. And these vibrations have nothing to do with how we’re “acting” on the surface.
We may be acting like we’re fine, but the universe and everyone in it feels our true vibration of pain or joy – and that’s what they respond to. And that’s what we attract more of.
Your pain needs to be recognized, listened to, and turned into fuel to move your life forward. How do you turn your pain into fuel? First by recognizing what your greatest pain is, and then by recognizing how to heal that pain through your work – or your actions in the world.
Your work then becomes a powerful platform for healing you and healing others. Remember, the more pain you have, the more fuel you have. Consider your pain to be your greatest blessing and move forward.